A medium once told me in a private sitting that I saved a life.

Being Seen is Fundamental to Life

A medium once told me in a private sitting that I saved a life. No other details or specifics, just that statement in amongst the other details of the communication.

I have even forgotten who the sitting was with, when and where it was conducted or the circumstance of me seeking a communication or which of my loved ones in the higher life supplied this observation.

I do however remember those words because of the enormity of what I was being told.

I also remember feeling taken aback along with utter bewilderment over what I had possibly done or said to have that effect on another soul and consequently felt the magnitude of that statement; I still do.

Now, I have no idea of the circumstances and presuming my communicator meant a human rather than an animal, as every time I've adopted an animal, I feel a life has been saved, however I feel rather humbled that perhaps something I said or did had that much of a profound effect on someone else to the point they sought treatment, changed their thoughts or even, their lifestyle.

Was it something that was said or done simply by randomly chatting to another, as those who know me know that I love people and can and will talk to anyone; striking up conversations with the homeless, random strangers and check out operatives at supermarket tills (just one reason I avoid self serve checkouts at all costs) with co queue-ees whilst standing in queues, with service staff when eating out, always looking for a name tag or asking their name and using it...I'm sure you get the picture.

Smile & Strike Up a Conversation

Otherwise, everyone to me is darling or lovely (unless of course, their actions prove otherwise, which has the same effect on me as gluten and lactose does on my body - absolutely zero tolerance) in which time we chat about everything and anything, usually me being the one to make the first comment, normally a kind genuine complement on appearance, contents of shopping trolley etc...followed by 'how is your day going?' or 'how are you?'.

Such powerful open questions.

Or perhaps it happened through words or an action that was expressed with complete innocence to someone that was suffering in some way, the only intention being of providing solace, upliftment and healing.

Maybe it was in the midst of a sitting I conducted myself or maybe it didn't happen at all and the medium misunderstood or my loved one was wrong. I hope it did happen. I hope they were right.

I feel the full answer to this will only be made available to me when my time comes; in the meantime, I strive to understand on a deeper level the impact of our presence, words and behaviour has on those around us.

Be Brave with Compassion

People just need to be seen and feel cared about, that is such an simple thing to do and yet something that many are starved of. Some give me a cursory response, short and sweet, others go into length and breadth, filling in all the corners of their current world and focus. I allow their words to be heard.

Perhaps these are words that are more comfortable expressed to a stranger than towards their own loved ones. I hope, in that moment, they experience some relief with the burdens they carry, feeling all the lighter for the interaction. To some, I may be the only person they have spoken to all week. The thought of that hurts my heart immensely.

The relationship doesn't have to be a personal one for any words spoken are released into the atmosphere, landing with those we intend to have them and indeed lingering within the air long after the event has concluded. How often have you walked into an area and felt uplifted and happy or conversely angry or sad for no reason.

Perhaps how you suddenly feel is nothing to do with you and you've walked into the lingering energy of a previous energetic exchange, hence why energetic hygiene is just as important as physical hygiene, especially for us sensitives - that's a topic for another post.

I realise I write as though words are tangible, they are. They contain energy, the energy of how they were spoken, the energy of intent and the energy of how they were received. If they are released within the vibration of love with the intent of no outcome for the orator but to offer that that has been previously mentioned, surely they will do what they are mean to do on some level, be that mind body soul or spirit. If this is correct, the opposite must also be true, therefore kind mindfulness must be practiced within every relationship and interaction because the energy remains long after the interaction has ended.

Alone is Different to Lonely

Energy and vibration are contagious - when we express kindness, we not only get it back through cause and effect but it also sows a seed within ourselves and the recipient who will then go on to be kind to others. The seed may take a while to germinate however it has been sown never the less. It is now up to ourselves and the recipient to nurture and tend to the seed sown.

Do we allow flowers or thorns to grow within the garden of our heart and soul?

How things are said are an internal reflection on where the person is at the time; the mood,

frame of mind, current situation or even unhealed traumas may be expressed through what is said and indeed how; everything from tone of voice to body language express nuances all designed to fill the full spectrum of communication. Perhaps this is why when expression occurs electronically, matters and meaning are so frequently misunderstood.

The internet has it's place in the world however, nothing can replace the feeling of in person interaction. It's ironic how the online world is designed to make the World smaller and yet can push individuals emotionally and mentally further apart, robbing the ability and development of nourishing in person communication, compounded further within the inception of AI.

As a species, we cannot allow that to happen; humans thrive within loving interactions and we must fight for that at all costs, ensuring we maintain and nurture wholesome physical interactions which without, life would become barren, filled instead with the vacuous exchange developed through the absence of physicality.

Be the Light You Wish to See

Who knows the effect of our words have on another. I know I didn't physically jump in a river to rescue someone (bad idea - rubbish swimmer), so it must have been through something I said or did.

I hope my missive inspires and reaches you dear reader to strike up a conversation with someone new, because you'll never know the joy you'll bring or the difference it may make for it is in giving that we receive; now isn't THAT a marvellous thought!

Until next time my darlings...

Minister Nicola Shortland-Neal - a collector of stories.